19.3.06
THE heavy topic.
'falling in love is just that - falling
out of control of your heart and your soul'
- forbidden city musical
how untrue. or wait. it may be true. you either fall into a bed of roses. or a deep abyss.
a new stage of life, new friends, and one thing happens. you see ppl getting together, everywhere. no doubt in our own exclusive group, you also see and hear stories of long term romances, which i find really sweet. but which is also besides the point. sometimes u jus wonder why ppl get involved so soon they catch u by surprise. one could rationalise that a couple can always start off by trying, but then again without that foundation of friendship, it would only make the r/s more likely to fail. because when u're a couple, certain expectations have to be met. and without knowing each other well enough to know the other half's expectations, would only result in arguments and mutual disappointment.
you tell me 'oh its no big deal. ppl get together and then fall out. happens all the time.' but i'd say that something bad would happen to you and ur bf/gf. a bond that was meant to be permanent was treated carelessly, like a throwaway. at the very least, a first failed relationship will make your next relationship more likely to fail, because you've laid down some tracks you'll tend to follow. you can break away, but its harder. there'll be less 1sts, and for all you know, you might even start comparing your relationships, getting discontent. its just like sex, some say. if u've never had sex b4 marriage, u'll never hav anything to compare against. and thus it will definitely always be awesome and mindblowing :) so its ur choice.
and i'll tell u a very good reason why its so precious to be in a relationship. its not because one can't live without the other (that's just romantic delusions). but precisely because one can definitely exist alone, and yet, despite that fact, one chooses to share his or her life with another. love is great, but its even greater when we as individuals exercise our free will to choose whom we want to share our lives with, rather than living a life based on necessity or convenience.
do you think living dangerously is fun? it is exhilarating, i know for sure. not to mention someone once told me, if u're not living on the edge, you're taking up too much space.
i fluttered by;
11:38 PM
